Therapy for Midlife
From Role to Soul
Midlife Counseling in Bellingham, WA — Depth-Oriented Care for Stress, Overwhelm & Disconnection
During midlife, the emotional impact of change is often buried, while uncertainty & indecision take a visible toll.
You're a seeker to your core. You seek to understand the world around you and life’s deeper meaning. You’re mentally sharp, perceptive, and intuitive.
You’re also emotionally exhausted. Years of putting others first have eroded your boundaries, leaving you drained and (if we’re being honest) a bit resentful.
And yet, you stay busy. Your calendar is full. The very strategies that helped you survive are now keeping you from the intimate and fulfilling life you long for.
Orienting to Reality
The Cost of Pretending
You’ve been conditioned to stay composed and “in control”. It’s served your professional life well, but your emotional, spiritual, and personal life have paid the price.
While death is life’s natural counterpart, the unsettling changes during transitional spaces fosters many unacknowledged forms of loss. When we dismiss or minimize the impact of these disruptions, we become deeply conflicted, emotionally numb, and psychically suspended.
I’m a therapist who helps you face what’s been pushed aside and make sense of expectations that were never truly yours.
This work is a vital step in releasing patterns of self-abandonment and returning to who you are beneath the roles you’ve been performing.
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In the the first half of life, our focus requires us to swim along life’s surface:
Establishing personal independence
Forming a core identity
Developing & securing relationships
Acquiring skills
Reaching for external accomplishments
Completing tasks
Laying the groundwork for a stable, functional life
The second half of life isn’t about doing more, it’s about becoming more.
This asks you to slow down, loosen your grip on control, and listen inward. When rigid ego demands begin to ease, you create the conditions for something new to come through.
Cultivating meaning, creativity, and evolution in life’s unfolding.
Intra works with midlife adults who secretly:
1) Have a hard time trusting others
2) Chronically feel numb or empty
3) Are intensely afraid of being rejected
4) Freeze or withdraw every time they make a mistake
5) Don’t feel like anything they do is enough
6) Struggle with self-directed hostility, aggression, or hatred
7) Fantasize about a long-imagined creative project or business endeavor
Yet, these same individuals also:
1) Deeply desire emotional intimacy and connection
2) Maintain a full calendar with career and social obligations
3) Push people away, especially when needing help
4) Anticipate the needs of others and swiftly move to find solutions
5) Thrive in leadership roles at work
6) Are perceived as being “calm and confident”
7) Feel immobilized when it comes to putting themselves out there
How it Works
Depth work as initiation: Your refusal to stay disconnected.
Much of what you struggle with today is a result of unresolved patterns, old hurts, and unmet needs from your past. Your nervous system is pulled toward what is familiar, even when it’s not healthy. Depth work interrupts long-standing patterns by allowing protective layers to fall away.
The Journey Inward
As your defenses begin to soften, we’ll begin to connect with the hidden influencers underlying your decisions, behavior, relationships, and sense of self. When parts of your personality remain unconscious, they hold a powerful emotional charge. But when you bring them into awareness and make steady, compassionate contact, the intensity softens. What was once unknown becomes familiar. As your relationship with these parts evolves, new potential is tapped.
When your awareness deepens, a renewed sense of self emerges — one not defined by shame, survival roles, or old conditioning.
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Intra blends depth psychology and somatic psychotherapy to bring you back to right relationship with yourself, others, and your soul’s purpose.
In our sessions, we work with:
Your inner dialogue and unconscious patterns
Emotions you’ve learned to override or minimize
Parts of you that feel overwhelmed, burdened, or in conflict
Sacred ritual to contain and release blocked grief
Imagery, dreams, and symbolic material that surface as you slow down
Physical tension, activation, or collapse in the nervous system
Creative practices that honor your transitions
Somatic tools to connect you to your inner wisdom
Depth Therapy for Midlife
Where Ritual Meets Renewal
Each session is a sacred pause to honor the parts of you that have been dismissed or pushed aside. We’ll explore your mental, emotional, & physical dimensions to help you:
→ Adapt old emotional responses
→ Discover your inner calling to live with clarity, courage, and purpose
→ Build tolerance for your felt experience
→ Develop new ways of relating to yourself & others
→ Work with the pain of the past to find greater resolution and spaciousness in your life today
When you begin to understand what you’re feeling, you’ll become clear about what you need. Clarity that will empower you to make intentional, life-altering decisions.
Our Process
1. Complete an Intake Form
Before we begin, you’ll be asked to complete a brief intake form. This helps me get a clearer sense of who you are, what you’re seeking, and the support you need. If it seems like we might be a good fit, I’ll reach out to schedule a brief consult call.
2. Intake & Preparation
During your intake process, we’ll explore a rough outline of your treatment plan and what to expect. Before diving into the deeper work, we'll lay a foundation of trust so you feel emotionally safe enough to open-up without feeling overexposed.
3. Mind-Body-Soul Integration
Once a safe therapeutic container is created, we will integrate mind-body-soul practices every fourth week, in place of talk therapy. Integration weeks offer holistic care that will support you long after our work together.
Frequently Asked Questions
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In depth therapy, all parts of you are brought into conversation: mind, heart, body, and soul. My job is to help you gently integrate the conscious parts of your life with the less conscious parts to help you feel empowered to make informed choices.
As your awareness deepens, you’ll connect with spontaneous images, bodily sensations, and emotions. This internal guiding system will support meaningful change to bring you back into alignment.
In session we will:
Invite a deeper level of curiosity, sensing, and reflection
Begin to identify the unconscious forces running your life behind the scenes
Bring the hidden parts of you into awareness through deep, respectful listening to your dreams, fantasies, compulsions, and felt sensations in the body
Cultivate a shift in perspective rooted in wisdom
Sit with uncertainty and witness the circular nature of transformation unfolding
Read more about the theory of depth therapy here.
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This isn’t quick-fix therapy centered around symptom relief. Depth therapy is honest, collaborative, and experiential. Sometimes this means symptoms will move around a bit until you find a greater sense of relief in multiple domains of your life.
Depth psychology understands symptoms and rigid behavior as the psyche’s way of signaling that something important has been avoided, often unconsciously. The aim of depth work is to cultivate an ongoing dialogue between your conscious and unconscious selves to enhance your reflective capacity, help you make more informed decisions, and access a more integrated sense of Self.
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Anyone ready to face their fear, anger, shame, loss, grief, remorse, and disappointment for the liberation, ease, peace, and spaciousness waiting for them on the other side.
Most people avoid the hard truths shaping their lives—not because they don’t care, but because real change requires loss, grief, and letting go. You, on the other hand, are ready for the sacred, messy work of transformation.
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My services are available in-person in Bellingham, WA and secure telehealth for clients anywhere in Washington State—including Seattle, Tacoma, Olympia, and rural counties.
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70-minute sessions are $240. 50-minutes virtual sessions are $180. For deeper trauma and grief processing, you have the option to add extended two-hour sessions at $420.
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I am an out-of-network provider. That means I don’t work directly with any insurance companies, however you may have out-of-network benefits and can find out more about what your insurance provides by calling them to inquire.
I am happy to provide you with the necessary paperwork (superbill / receipt) for you to submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement for a portion of the session fee. All sessions are paid by you upfront and you have the potential to be reimbursed down the road directly through your insurance.
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