Midlife Depth Therapy
For strong women and sensitive men performing at a high level — and shrinking on a personal one.
From Role to Soul
Midlife Counseling In Bellingham, WA + Virtual Therapy Across Washington
You built an accomplished life. Why doesn't it fit?
You’re often the most perceptive person in the room—intuitive, attuned, and always three steps ahead.
You’re also emotionally exhausted. Years of putting others first, absorbing family stress, and leading from depletion have left you drained and, if we’re being honest, a bit resentful.
And still, you stay busy. The very strategies that carried you through are now keeping you from the intimate and fulfilling life you long for.
Orienting to Reality
The Cost of Pretending
You’ve been conditioned to stay composed and “in control”. It’s served your professional life well, but your emotional, spiritual, and personal life have paid the price.
Change during life's transitions brings loss we rarely grasp. Dismissing or minimizing that loss leaves us conflicted, emotionally numb, and suspended in place.
I’m a therapist who helps you face what’s been pushed aside and make sense of expectations that were never truly yours.
This work is a vital step in releasing patterns of self-abandonment and returning to who you are beneath the roles you’ve been performing.
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In the the first half of life, our focus requires us to swim along life’s surface:
Establishing personal independence
Forming a core identity
Developing & securing relationships
Acquiring skills
Reaching for external accomplishments
Completing tasks
Laying the groundwork for a stable, functional life
The second half of life isn’t about doing more, it’s about becoming more.
This asks you to slow down, loosen your grip on control, and listen inward. When rigid ego demands begin to ease, you create the conditions for something new to come through.
Cultivating meaning, creativity, and evolution in life’s unfolding.
Intra works with midlife adults who secretly:
1) Have a hard time trusting others
2) Chronically feel numb or empty
3) Are intensely afraid of being rejected
4) Freeze or withdraw every time they make a mistake
5) Don’t feel like anything they do is enough
6) Struggle with self-directed hostility, aggression, or hatred
7) Fantasize about a long-imagined creative project or business endeavor
Yet, these same individuals also:
1) Deeply desire emotional intimacy and connection
2) Maintain a full calendar
3) Push people away when they need help
4) Anticipate the needs of others and swiftly move to find solutions
5) Thrive in leadership roles at work
6) Are perceived as being “calm and confident”
7) Feel immobilized when it comes to putting themselves out there
How it Works
Depth Work as Initiation: Bridging Science & Spiritual Restoration
What you struggle with today is often rooted in unresolved patterns, old hurts, and unmet needs. Your nervous system gravitates toward the familiar, even when it's not healthy.
As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Kripalu Yoga Instructor, I bring clinical rigor and somatic wisdom into this work, because insight alone isn't enough. Your nervous system has to be invited into the process.
My therapeutic approach is direct, compassionate, and experiential. Expect honesty, lightheartedness, and genuine connection. When people-pleasing and overfunctioning show up, we'll rework it in real time, within our relationship. Building your tolerance to slow down, communicate your needs, and set clearer boundaries at work and at home.
As we uncover what's driving your decisions, relationships, and sense of self — shame loses its grip. Self-trust replaces the impulse to over-explain. Insight becomes value-driven action.
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Intra blends depth psychology and somatic psychotherapy to bring you back to right relationship with yourself, others, and your soul’s purpose.
In our sessions, we work with:
Your inner dialogue and unconscious patterns
Emotions you’ve learned to override or minimize
Parts of you that feel overwhelmed, burdened, or in conflict
Sacred ritual to contain and release blocked grief
Imagery, dreams, and symbolic material that surface as you slow down
Physical tension, activation, or collapse in the nervous system
Creative practices that honor your transitions
Somatic tools to connect you to your inner wisdom
Depth Therapy for Midlife
Weekly Ritual As Renewal
In midlife, restlessness and burnout are often signals — not failures. Your psyche is asking you to become more, not achieve more.
Depth therapy creates a sturdy weekly container to honor what's been dismissed and reclaim access to renewed creativity, meaning, and purpose.
This work will help you:
→ Embody the calm, confident leader you're already perceived to be, from the inside out
→ Adapt old emotional responses and reconnect with the life you actually want to lead
→ Develop new ways of relating without losing yourself in the process
→ Find resolution with unresolved grief and trauma so the past stops dictating the present
Our Process
1. Complete an Inquiry Form
Before we begin, you’ll be asked to complete a brief inquiry form. This helps me get a clearer sense of who you are, and the support you want. If it seems like we might be a good fit, I’ll reach out to schedule a brief consult call.
2. Intake and Preparation
During your intake process, we’ll explore a rough outline of your treatment plan and what to expect. Before diving into the deeper work, we'll lay a foundation of trust so you feel emotionally safe enough to open-up without feeling overexposed.
3. Mind-Body-Soul Integration
Once a safe therapeutic container is created, we will integrate mind-body-soul practices every fourth week, in place of talk therapy. Integration weeks offer holistic care that will support you long after our work together.
Frequently Asked Questions
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You may benefit from therapy if you feel stuck, burned out, emotionally numb, disconnected from your partner, questioning your purpose, grieving a loss, or struggling with low self worth despite outward success.
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Yes. Therapy can help uncover the roots of self esteem struggles and support deeper identity integration.
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Depth oriented therapy explores the underlying patterns, unconscious dynamics, and emotional history that shape your present experience. Rather than focusing only on symptom management, this approach supports long term transformation and integration.
In session we will:
Invite a deeper level of curiosity, sensing, and reflection
Begin to identify the unconscious forces running your life behind the scenes
Bring the hidden parts of you into awareness through deep, respectful listening to your dreams, fantasies, compulsions, and felt sensations in the body
Cultivate a shift in perspective rooted in wisdom
Sit with uncertainty and witness the circular nature of transformation unfolding
Read more about the theory of depth therapy here.
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This isn’t quick-fix therapy centered around symptom relief. Depth therapy is honest, collaborative, and experiential. Sometimes this means symptoms will shift around until you find a greater sense of relief in multiple domains of your life.
Depth psychology understands symptoms and rigid behavior as the psyche’s way of signaling that something important has been avoided, often unconsciously. The aim of depth work is to cultivate an ongoing dialogue between your conscious and unconscious selves to enhance your reflective capacity, help you make more informed decisions, and access a more integrated sense of Self.
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Anyone ready to face their fear, anger, shame, loss, grief, remorse, and disappointment for the liberation, ease, peace, and spaciousness waiting for them on the other side.
Most people avoid the hard truths shaping their lives—not because they don’t care, but because real change requires loss, grief, and letting go. You, on the other hand, are ready for the sacred, messy work of transformation.
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My services are available in-person in Bellingham, WA and secure telehealth for clients anywhere in Washington State—including Seattle, Tacoma, Olympia, and rural counties.
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70-minute sessions are $240. 50-minutes virtual sessions are $210. For deeper trauma and grief processing, you have the option to add extended two-hour sessions at $420.
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Yes. I work with clients in Seattle and across Washington through telehealth, and offer in person sessions in Bellingham.
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Fill out my contact form to get started.
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Midlife therapy supports adults navigating life transitions such as career changes, relationship shifts, grief, burnout, and questions of identity or purpose. It can help you process loss, rebuild self esteem, and reconnect with meaning during this stage of life.
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Not exactly. Many adults seek grief counseling during midlife, especially after the death of a loved one, divorce, or other major losses. Midlife therapy may include grief work, but it also addresses identity changes, self worth, and existential concerns.
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Yes. Many adults seek therapy during midlife because of chronic stress, professional burnout, or a loss of meaning in their work. Therapy can help clarify values, restore emotional vitality, and support healthier boundaries.
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Yes. I specialize in introverted leaders and purpose driven professionals who want more than coping strategies and are ready for deeper psychological work.
